So what is an intregrated practitioner

So if one has not heard of one, one should. Last evening we started with a plan after a 2 hour consultation with Dr D. Now for figuring out how we will get all that blood work accomplished. Really it was an in depth fact finding mission. Really want to speed up the next 2 weeks until all the results are in.

The Reality

So as we near the reality I feel as if we will be designated to hear I diagnosis of Attention Deficit. I know it could be so much worse of something to hear and come to gripes with. I called my brother yesterday whom was diagnosed with the same as a young child and still feels to this day he is challenged with ADHD, and his insight was incredible. He warned to cautiously use wording. He described knowing that he was different than others. But to use the word "special" to him meant so much more and he also expressed that if a subject was ordinary, than that topic just was not worth the effort. Subjects that are hands on or something new was all the difference. He told stories of how he did not feel medication helped him in his mind but might have helped with his hyperactivity. I spent the entire day yesterday, searching for the best practitioners to reach out to and support groups to surround our family with.
For Peter today was a day where as soon as he came home we had to immediately go back up to school again to collect all his homework. And then the homework went on and on and on...
I feel Dave is coming to gripes with this as well and where I once believed he was in a state of denial I feel he is dealing with Peter in a different light and having compassion for what I am trying to do with Peter during the days. He still cannot tell though like I can when Peter is seeming acknowledging the discussion when in reality I can tell his mind is somewhere else and he has no clue to the discussion involving him.

Since you are unemployed ....

Chris, while doing in reading log assignments told me since I am unemployed I should fill out his homework..."ah what now?". Are you kidding me? I'll sign where it says parent signature, but that is all. By all, I mean, check the homework, correct the homework, check the backpack, read the agenda, remove all old papers, review sent home work, sift through all the pta handouts and other announcements, and write checks to the pta and school for all the start of year activities ( I swear I do not write as many checks throughout the entire year as I do for Sept & Oct.) Then let me see...make breakfast, take out clothing, start a wash, empty the dishwasher, gather a snack, double check backpacks, check to see all brushed teeth and washed. Of course there is breakfast as well and a kiss goodbye for Dad. This is all done before 7:30am. Then just in case Chris you thought I did not "work" during the day I could give details but for right now I think all gets the picture. Not sure how I ever managed it all, but that's just it I probably was not handling it all very well. I did my best.

The Living Room Meeting

Although this blog will chronicle our challenges in raising boys, I will also try to blog on the memorable moments. Peter joined a new Weblow den last night. For right now he is the only one in his grade so he joined the jr. weblows. Last nights first meeting objective was to create a patrol name and review new materials they need to memorize. One child said if its a "Den meeting why are we meeting in the Living Room" ..."our patrol name should be Living Room Patrol"... they finally decided to name themselves the Jedi Patrol.

What is wrong... what did I do wrong

10/8/10

Its amazing I constructed this blog one year ago and never wrote a post until today.



I brought Peter (10 yr old) to the doctor yesterday for a hearing test and after hearing the results were "normal" I knew we needed to go to the next step. Peter has always been an old soul. Wise beyond his years and brilliant...so what is wrong. Peter has always experienced coping issues and distraction but now he is so counter productive, we need help. Is it that he has a cognitive issue... I thought that when I asked him if he wanted milk in his cereal and he replied, "what does a coconut have to do with it?"? Is it that its a hyperactive thing? Is it an over stimulation thing" This is Peter: Exhausted all the time, inability to focus, inability to let old feelings go, inability to follow multi step directions, very loud, feeling "wrong in the head", tons of excuses, poor grades, teachers feeling as if he is giving a poor effort or not working to full potential, and out in out disrespectful to his mother, everything is a battle. This is ME: I used to yell, scream, threaten, punish, and discipline, about 1 year ago I stopped all of it and just gave love until on some days utter frustration sets in and then all hell breaks loose and I need a Mommy time out. For the most part he recognizes at the end of the day he was acting out and being disrespectful. He will apologize, give me the sweetest hug, tell me he loves me but almost immediately after the embrace ends the next round of the same begins. Its exhausting, maybe it is for him as well and that is why he is so tired. Monday, Columbus Day we meet with a social worker and mid November he will be evaluated by a pediatric neurologist. Come along with me on this journey and I look forward to hearing your stories on how we can keep our family together, productive, and happy.